Sought-after sexuality expert and psychotherapist Esther Perel peels away the layers of desire to reveal some surprising truths about what actually turns women and men on. For one: The secret to female sexuality, Perel says, is how narcissistic it is. She also has some revelatory ideas about why desire dries up in long-term relationships and how to reinvent your intimate life, and she even makes a compelling case for reconsidering the way we think about jealousy as well as infidelity.